Want to know some cool tricks for getting the boyfriend back? well, there are some things that may just work well for you. Of course, a lot of it depends on what happened between the two of you and how you've handled things since the breakup. If you've been a screaming shrew it's going to take longer. The best thing to do is to get started today.
Give your guy some space. Don't be clingy, whiny, or needy. None of those things are a huge turn on and it's unlikely that if you act like that he's going to be thinking 'Wow, I'm really missing out'. Be you, don't get obsessed with getting him back, instead live your life and figure out how to improve on the person you are. What part did you play in the relationship falling apart? Figure out what you did wrong and than improve on it.
No one is perfect and no one is completely to blame when a relationship falls apart. Figure out how you can improve and what you may have done that contributed to the extinction of your relationship. Then address those issues so if you and your ex do get back together you can make it work this time around.
Even if you and your ex aren't able to make things work, at least you'll be a better person and you'll bring a better person to all the other relationships you'll have. You really can't lose.
I know it may be hard for you to face up to some of your foibles but it is totally necessary. Don't think, like many women do, that you can fix all the problems all by yourself either. For now it's enough for you to fix you but if the two of you do get back together it will have to be a mutual effort. Unless you were with a total saint and you are completely responsible for the problems both of you will have to work on things. But that's something that will come later, for now it's all about you and getting boyfriend back.
Once you've given your guy some space, and had some time to take a deep breath, the next thing you should do is try to find your ex and see if they want to get together. Nothing fancy, don't act like the two of you are going to get back together, you're just getting together as friends.
This meeting can tell you a lot about what your chances of making things work out really are. For example, if the two of you do meet and your ex seems really happy to see you, that's a good sign. It might not turn into anything but it's definitely a good start.
But if your ex spends the whole time talking about his new girlfriend, it's not such a good sign. Again, no matter what happens at least you can walk away knowing that you tried and that you didn't make a fool of yourself. Not only that, but you've spent some time improving the person you are. No matter what happens, these tips will help when it comes to getting the boyfriend back.
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Get Back Together With Your Ex - Timming Is Everything
Want to know how to get back together with your ex? You may think that it's impossible, but in most cases, it's not. It's always best to give your ex a little time before you talk to them. Let them cool off somewhat and spend some time alone. Many people want to rush right back in because they're afraid that if they give their ex too much time they will find someone else. And sometimes they do, but don't worry, rebound relationships rarely work out. Just give both of you some time to breathe.
Another thing to keep in mind is that unless you make some changes things will only work out the same way when the two of you do get back together. You don't want that do you? Of course not, no one wants to repeat a cycle where they cause pain for themselves and their partner. That's why it's a great idea to figure out what went wrong the first time. By doing this you can make some changes so you don't just repeat the same destructive cycle over and over again.
So, when trying to get back together with your ex, how do you figure out what went wrong? It will take some time and honesty. The best way is to think back about some of the arguments you and your ex had. What did you argue about? What did your ex complain to you about regarding your behavior? For example, if your ex says you never listen then that means, at least from their perspective, that you aren't really 'tuned' into them and their needs. Now, of course, this might just be their perception, but more often than not, there's some reason they believe this to be true. If you look honestly at yourself and your behavior you may see some of what they are talking about.
So, now that you have some ideas of what issues you've had, now what? Well, now you change. I know, I made that sound easy and it will take time but that's the next step. Once you are aware of the way you act, it's much, much easier to make changes. We tend to do (and act) in default mode most of the time. It's not until we actually, consciously, choose to monitor the way we act and the things we say that we can make real changes. It will take time and practice to make these changes, but you can do it if you want to badly enough.
The really neat thing about all of this, is that not only can you get your ex back and have a great relationship with them, but you'll also be a better person.
So, to recap, if you really want to find a way to get back together with your ex and making it last this time, your best bet is to face up to the problems and find ways to fix them. Accept the mistakes you've made and learn to improve on the person you are. Once you show this side to your ex they will probably be calling you and begging you to get back together. Cool huh?
Click here to download The Magic of Making Up and get your ex back today.
Another thing to keep in mind is that unless you make some changes things will only work out the same way when the two of you do get back together. You don't want that do you? Of course not, no one wants to repeat a cycle where they cause pain for themselves and their partner. That's why it's a great idea to figure out what went wrong the first time. By doing this you can make some changes so you don't just repeat the same destructive cycle over and over again.
So, when trying to get back together with your ex, how do you figure out what went wrong? It will take some time and honesty. The best way is to think back about some of the arguments you and your ex had. What did you argue about? What did your ex complain to you about regarding your behavior? For example, if your ex says you never listen then that means, at least from their perspective, that you aren't really 'tuned' into them and their needs. Now, of course, this might just be their perception, but more often than not, there's some reason they believe this to be true. If you look honestly at yourself and your behavior you may see some of what they are talking about.
So, now that you have some ideas of what issues you've had, now what? Well, now you change. I know, I made that sound easy and it will take time but that's the next step. Once you are aware of the way you act, it's much, much easier to make changes. We tend to do (and act) in default mode most of the time. It's not until we actually, consciously, choose to monitor the way we act and the things we say that we can make real changes. It will take time and practice to make these changes, but you can do it if you want to badly enough.
The really neat thing about all of this, is that not only can you get your ex back and have a great relationship with them, but you'll also be a better person.
So, to recap, if you really want to find a way to get back together with your ex and making it last this time, your best bet is to face up to the problems and find ways to fix them. Accept the mistakes you've made and learn to improve on the person you are. Once you show this side to your ex they will probably be calling you and begging you to get back together. Cool huh?
Click here to download The Magic of Making Up and get your ex back today.
Been Dumped - Feel Lost - Find Yourself
If you have recently been dumped you may feel a little lost right now. If you spend your days just walking around in a fog and nothing seems to go right you need to learn how to fix it, especially if you want to try to get your ex back. There are specific steps you can take to help you do this.
First, you need you back. If you want to try to get your ex back you need to be confident and self assured. So, work through your pain and anger before contacting your ex. Otherwise they will feel they need to be on the defensive and you will do nothing more than alienate them further.
If you have been dumped it may take a while for the pain and anger to subside. Take as much time as you need to feel your feelings and deal with them as they surface. Then decide what it is you want and go for it. If what you want is to get your ex back then do it. Be careful though, like I said make sure you have you back and you are in a good frame of mind or else anything you try will not work and may even backfire.
when you are ready, call your ex on the phone and ask if they would like to meet you for coffee and a talk. If they are willing to meet you, you need to have planned out what you want to say. This isn't the time to fly by the seat of your pants. It's also important that you don't start off by asking them, or begging them, to get back together. Now is the time to try and reconnect and remind them how much fun the two of you used to have.
Hopefully by this point you have addressed the issues you had, or whatever it was that caused problems in your relationship in the past. If so, this meeting could be a great time to let your ex see these improvements with their own two eyes.
Of course, if the two of you are going to make things work for the long haul both of you will most likely need to assess your habits and attitudes and make some changes. Now isn't the time to worry about that though, the only person you can change is you. For now, let that be your focus. Than when the two of you get back together and you are trying to keep things strong you can work on other issues that may be driving a wedge between you and creating difficulty in your relationship.
There is hope. No matter how much the two of you have been through you can still find a way to get back together and make things work out much better the second time. Even if you've been dumped there is still hope for a much better future.
Click here to download The Magic of Making Up and get your ex back today.
First, you need you back. If you want to try to get your ex back you need to be confident and self assured. So, work through your pain and anger before contacting your ex. Otherwise they will feel they need to be on the defensive and you will do nothing more than alienate them further.
If you have been dumped it may take a while for the pain and anger to subside. Take as much time as you need to feel your feelings and deal with them as they surface. Then decide what it is you want and go for it. If what you want is to get your ex back then do it. Be careful though, like I said make sure you have you back and you are in a good frame of mind or else anything you try will not work and may even backfire.
when you are ready, call your ex on the phone and ask if they would like to meet you for coffee and a talk. If they are willing to meet you, you need to have planned out what you want to say. This isn't the time to fly by the seat of your pants. It's also important that you don't start off by asking them, or begging them, to get back together. Now is the time to try and reconnect and remind them how much fun the two of you used to have.
Hopefully by this point you have addressed the issues you had, or whatever it was that caused problems in your relationship in the past. If so, this meeting could be a great time to let your ex see these improvements with their own two eyes.
Of course, if the two of you are going to make things work for the long haul both of you will most likely need to assess your habits and attitudes and make some changes. Now isn't the time to worry about that though, the only person you can change is you. For now, let that be your focus. Than when the two of you get back together and you are trying to keep things strong you can work on other issues that may be driving a wedge between you and creating difficulty in your relationship.
There is hope. No matter how much the two of you have been through you can still find a way to get back together and make things work out much better the second time. Even if you've been dumped there is still hope for a much better future.
Click here to download The Magic of Making Up and get your ex back today.
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